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NOT everything is baiting. Read before you report

We are receiving feedback from some posters who are confused about what baiting is. It has sparked us to make a change as to how we moderate baiting. We want you to understand what does not constitute baiting so that you can stop reporting posters because they hate your favorite characters.

The first thing to note is that no moderator on the staff is biased. We are here to do a job and don’t care who you like or dislike. We’re adults. We have no favorites which is why we have these jobs.

This board that has an ignore feature. USE IT if you need to because we’re not here to hassle people for their opinions. That’s not our job. Our job is solely to ensure guidelines are followed. Your job is to be mature enough to know when to step away.

Stop flagging posts as “argumentative.” Instead, use your own debating skills to discuss or agree to disagree. We’re not your parents. We’re not here to babysit your debates. That is actually in our job description ‘You are not babysitters’.

Not one person is alike. We were all brought up by our parents differently, we’ve our own issues, our own fears, loves and our own irritations that shape us into who we are. That means we’re not always going to agree. That means you agree to disagree as you would in person.

Everyone’s points are valid. Every single point. This is why we don’t care if you’re pro-Steffy or pro-Hope. There are good and bad points about ALL characters. If there weren’t they’d be boring. If we all agreed on everything, life would be boring.

This is what you need to stop doing - and we’re being blunt because in the past, being subtle on the B&B board has not done us any favors:

Stop reporting posts when other posters bring up another character’s name in a thread. Just stop it. We’re ignoring this now.

If a poster attacks a character, it is not baiting so let them say what they want.

If you do not like a post then let it go. Move on. Don’t reply if you think it’ll make you mad. In reality, if your friend tells you she doesn’t like Steffy or Hope when you love Steffy or Hope, you agree to disagree or you debate the reasons. You don’t treat your friends like dirt so don’t treat your fellow posters that way.

If a thread you see is clearly pressing your buttons, because you’re letting them press your buttons, back away. ALL of our posters deserve to be able to discuss whomever they like or dislike. Even Soaps’ writers have opinion columns and are allowed to talk about issues plaguing them. This is life. We’re not always going to agree but we need to always respect each other.

Stop trying to change your fellow posters minds. Let them have their opinion and while you can ask why they feel the way they do, don’t be passive aggressive about it. Don’t try to make them feel as if their opinion isn’t as good as yours.

Please respect each other. We want to see all of you happily posting for good. It gives us no pleasure at all to warn posters or ban them. That is the honest truth.

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Thank you. This makes absolute sense and I appreciate you taking the time to break it down for us. :slight_smile:

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So this means off topic posts are no longer against the rules? Anyone can come into any thread and talk about whatever they want? Why bother with topics? Or does this mean that those who report should not report it as baiting but use the off topic section?

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Thank you so much for this detailed explanation. This explains the rules perfectly.

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I think what they mean is that it is not baiting to discuss ofther characters or topics . The natural flow of almost every discussion turns to something else. Rarely does a thread end where it began.

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If their name is brought up, as it will happen in discussion, people should not be penalized for it or upset by it. That’s all. Lyn1216 your post explains it too. Thank-you.

We are very tired of the arguing on this board in particular.

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What would help the most IMO is to show us examples of baiting in a post…a few would be nice.

Thanks
STAR

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JMO but I think all posters should be made to read this before they can post another or flag another post. This says it all very plainly. Thank you.

When will it come out that the Doctor stolen Hope and Liam’s baby girl?

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Thank you. I tend to start at “Point A” and then may think of something else that to me is “logical” so I write about it. No, that I am not trying to “bait someone,” but just writing because that is where my mind is going. So if I have “wondered” off the original subject, please be kind to me. I am not trying to "hurt someone, I am just “writing”. I will try hard to stay on subject, but I admit, my mind sometimes doesn’t work that way, and I don’t mean any harm.

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“Stop trying to change your fellow posters minds.”
“don’t be passive aggressive about it”

These are the two BIG reasons for the fighting. The constant trying to change our minds. AND, being passive-aggressive which is veiled baiting.

I love that we are told to MOVE ON if we don’t agree with a post or thread. No need to continually argue!

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I guess not until November now. I am so sad. Now Liam goes back to Steffy again. I dont care for him constantly
going back and forth.
Maybe it will break up Ridge and Brooke. I would rather they find out and deal with all the fallout against Zoe, Flo, Taylor, Shawna, Thomas, Ridge.

Almost everything I post is removed. I am not understanding this because I spent almost a half of day the other day reading other people’s posts and they are saying more offensive things than me. There are some posts that are saying the very same thing as mine and my post got taken down but nobody else’s did. I am sure this one will be taken down too. You know I think I will just stay off the boards for a while. There is no sense in posting if I can’t post my opinion. I don’t say bad words or call anybody names. I might say what someone done was stupid or something similar. But my posts are nice compared to a lot of people’s. I think if I were to remove my little black profile picture and nobody had any idea what nationality I am, my posts would probably be well received. I will take a break and stay off for a while because I know at this rate I will be banned anyway. It’s only a matter of time.

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Read your emails or PMs that explain what the post issues are and review the guidelines. Thank you.

I don’t think it’s a black or white issue Azah, as I am black myself. I think it has to do with when someone doesn’t agree with you, they immediately report you for whatever you might have said. There are PLENTY who have been reported. Trust me!!! Keep posting girl!

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Thank you!!! This makes me feel better!!

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To not spread misinformation, questions of this nature must always be directed at moderators. At the top of the page there is always a notice of how to PM the admin. Yes, we want everyone to keep posting, but if you are having posts deleted (not just flagged by others); and you are getting warnings, please make sure you understand why.

Getting a warning for deleted posts means you yourself broke the rules.

Deleted posts in general could be because posts were deleted as part of a discussion where someone else’s post was deleted, and hence all the replies may disappear.

Thank you!

I just entered a post and I got a message that I used an inappropriate word. I reread my post several times and I could not find a word that I have not used in other posts.

It would be really nice if you are going to prevent a post from being posted that you let us know which word in our post is unacceptable so that we can go back and change the word instead of having to cancel the whole post. If I have put an unacceptable word in my post I certainly would not be offended by you informing that the word is wrong.

I do not make a practice of using swear words and this was what I was looking for. I was searching for the word so I tried what I have seen other poster do by leaving out a letter and trying to repost but I just could not figure out what word was unacceptable.

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“Stop reporting posts when other posters bring up another character’s name in a thread. Just stop it. We’re ignoring this now.”

I got a message from admin. that my post was baiting. In a thread about Sharon I said “this thread should be about Phyllis”. It was just one sentence. The admin. message explained to me that I cannot mention characters other than in the thread title. It’s even more confusing now than it was before. We always compare different characters.

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A few of my post have been removed. I’m new to the board and didn’t realize that others posters could flag your post if they didn’t like what you say. Some have said much worse. I’m getting an idea of who it is.

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