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Dustin...don't move in

Okay, I’m not saying Lulu and Dustin should break up, I think they should keep seeing each other but I don’t think he should move in, I think he should keep his own place. It’s gotten too complicated with Dante returning, plus Rocco’s going to start getting very resentful and it’s just going to cause friction in the relationship. People don’t always have to live together can’t they just date until they get engaged or married? He should stay in his own apartment to keep peace for now.

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I agree…:champagne::cocktail:…Dustin has been good for Lulu…

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I’m really on the fence with this one. On the one hand this would be proof that Lulu has moved on from Dante and this is a consequence of his own actions. Dustin has been good for her and doesn’t deserve to be held on standby until Dante wins Lulu back, which is basically what would be happening should he decide to not move in now. On the other many would say that Lulu & Dante belong together and should have a happy home with their kids. I don’t see Rocco having resentment toward Dustin but I could see him feeling some resentment for Dante. Rocco is old enough to have understood the pain that his father’s leaving had on his mother. He felt abandoned, too. Dustin has been a constant in his life and if he leaves it sends the message that a loved one can just be replaced at any given time.

Dante made this mess and Dustin helped clean it up! Lulu must make the decision to either cut Dustin completely loose or leave Dante free. It isn’t fair to either of them for her to waiver. I might add that Dante chose to break his marriage vows by divorcing Lulu. He doesn’t deserve a do-over.

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I think Dante needs to get all the treatment he needs…move on with some Lady…then a couple years down the road…if Dustin is no longer in the picture…then he and Lulu can reunite…

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Dustin and LuLu should continue to date, but I am sure LuLu is having some thoughts about she and Dante’s family now that he’s back in town. LuLu should put Dustin out in order to sort out her feelings about Dante.

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Dustin should make the decision on his own to move out, not even wait for Lulu to say or suggest anything.

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I feel like we need more of his back story. I’d like a soap story to have a woman wait until she really knows the man before moving him in when she has children. So many parents I know have expressed concern over when you bring someone to meet their children. I know he has a good relationship with Rocco but with Dante back and the look on LuLus face when he annoyed it today means someone should pump the breaks.

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Soaps mirror real life sometimes and since living together is more common than marriage these days that is reflected on soaps as well. I feel the same about “crashing” at a lover’s house where children are involved. A person can date and even sleep with someone but they need to do it away from their home with children. Nobody should be sleeping with mommy’s bed besides daddy until one is completely sure of the relationship. This is probably naive on my part because I know it isn’t the popular consensus.

Regarding Lulu & Dustin I think that if Lulu loved Dustin enough to ask him to move into her home with her children before Dante came back she should love him enough after Dante’s return to want him to move in. A commitment this deep should not be predicated on the notion that “you can live here unless or until my husband returns”. That is immature and unfair to the other person! Dante voluntarily gave up his family. It doesn’t matter what his motivation for doing so was; it matters that he did it! It would be selfish of him to expect or want Lulu to rearrange her life because he now realizes he made a bad call.

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What you say is true, but if it were real life and I was the “Dustin” in this drama I would move out until and IF they got engaged and Lulu knows what she really wants. she tells Dustin she loves him but it’s obvious she still has lingering feelings for Dante in spite of everything he did to her. I know times have changed but I think it’s good to wait a long while to move in together as well, maybe even after marriage

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Agreed.

The right time, with the right partner, marriage is a gratifying blessing. Cohabitation without marriage, pfft.

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I wish more people felt this way but I fear marriage is quickly becoming a foreign concept.

Agreed. Marriage appears to be regarded as either antiquated and unnecessary, or, a useful, but temporary tool.

To hear my cousin say it…it serves no purpose other than sharing wealth…which each individual can actually make on their own… nowadays…lol…:yum: