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The daytime actress shares heartbreaking, yet common struggle.

Soaps.com sends our thoughts and prayers to Days of our Lives actress Jen Lilley (Theresa Donavan), who shared both heartbreaking yet joyous news on Instagram. Along with her husband Jason Wayne, Jen Lilley is free to adopt her foster son. She revealed that October 16 marked the day the boy she’s cared for the past two years became legally free for them to adopt. Sadly the same day she revealed was her due date for a child she miscarried. She shared that, “Like 1 out of every 4 women, I’ve miscarried. When it happened, I was devastated and felt so alone. I was 12 weeks along, just a week from telling my family, and beyond excited. I remember talking with my mom who said I had to tell my siblings because they needed to know I actually experienced heartache too, and I wasn’t picture perfect. It hit me like a ton of bricks. I remember retaliating.” Lilley concluded her post by stating, “I’m a #fosterparent mom. My life is hard and I cry every day for these sweet innocent children I love with every drop of me but have zero say over their legal fate until adoption presents itself.” She encouraged her followers to continue this very important discussion on her feed.

A miscarriage is when a pregnancy ends itself within the first 20 weeks of gestation. Not every woman who suffers a miscarriage even realizes at the time they are pregnant because it can happen so early on. Studies reveal that between 10 to 25 percent of all clinically recognized pregnancies will end in miscarriage. Most miscarriages occur during the first 13 weeks of pregnancy and are due to no fault of the mother. October 15 has been designated the day in the United States, Canada, and parts of Australia and other Western countries to observe pregnancy loss and infant death. Several hotlines are available for support if you have questions or concerns about miscarriages. The American Pregnancy Association can be reached at 1-800-672-2296.

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This is a post unlike any other post I’ve ever posted, but I know for sure at least one of you profoundly needs to read this today ❤️ Today is October 16, 2018 and it’s a mix of emotions for me. THE GREAT NEWS: this plane can finally stop sitting on the runway and has cleared for take off! You see, Oct 16, 2018 marks the first day my son is truly legally untethered from this biological family. While bio parental rights were terminated months ago, today is the first day he’s no longer at risk of being taken from the only parents he’s really ever known because the appeals period has officially passed!!!!❤️?????? Being mommy to this little boy for the past 2 years and some odd weeks has been the most wonderful and transformational experience of my life. He’s made me cry harder than I’ve ever cried, pray more fervently than I’ve ever prayed, opened up an impossible depth of empathy for his biological momma, crafted me into a real momma bear, made me laugh harder than anyone’s ever made me laugh, and made me appreciate my husband more than I ever have. This little tot is truly a gift from God and experiencing ever unpredictable up and down that comes with foster parenting and the crazy system has been worth it. We’ve still got a little ways to go, but legally we’re cleared to start the official adoption paper signing! THE BITTERSWEET: yesterday was my due date. Wait what? Yes, like 1 out of every 4 women, I’ve miscarried. When it happened, I was devastated and felt so alone. I was 12 weeks along, just a week from telling my family, and beyond excited. I remember talking with my mom who said I had to tell my siblings because they needed to know I actually experienced heartache too, and I wasn’t picture perfect. It hit me like a ton of bricks. I remember retaliating. I’m a #fosterparent mom. My life is hard and I cry every day for these sweet innocent children I love with every drop of me but have zero say over their legal fate until adoption presents itself. (Please go to comment section to continue reading… always grateful for your support.)

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