Retrospective on Days’ John and Marlena’s Wedding Vows
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John and Marlena’s wedding ceremonies always make fans tear up.
Soaps.com takes a look back at John Black and Dr. Marlena Evans, “Jarlena’s” vows, in anticipation for their August 22, 2018 wedding, which promises to be an old fashioned wedding with Marlena wearing a white gown, and rumored to be filled with shockers. We’ve updated below with John and Marlena’s newest vows from August 22, 2018.
Marlena & John first wedding August 22, 1986
Marlena married Roman, who was actually John Black, on August 22, 1986. The song, “Up Where We Belong,” was sung by Marlena’s friend, Tamara Price, who was played by Marilyn McCoo (Lani Price’s mother). Incidentally, this song was also sung at Roman and Marlena’s first wedding in 1984 by Doug Williams (Bill Hayes).
Roman (John): That is the true season of love
Marlena: When we believe that we alone can love
John: When no has ever loved so before us
Marlena: And no one will ever love in the same way after us.
John & Marlena remarry Tuesday July 6, 1999
Marlena: “I love you….I thought I’d lost you and then I got you back….I always believed that having someone come into your life that you can love as fully and as completely as I love you is very rare and very special….I held on to that when you were gone, and it saw me through some unbearable pain….Most folks go through their whole lives and never have that, you know. Not us. We got to have it twice in this lifetime. I know what it’s like to be without you for a month, for a week, for a day. I was for 17 months and 3 weeks and 2 days. That’s how long I hurt….To be back with you now…..We’re more than blessed – we’re twice blessed. I love you. I love you.”
John: “Doc, the circumstances here have kind of dealt us a funny hand, and there are things in my life, which include our life, that I don’t remember. But I do remember the first time that I saw you after I came back again. From the hospital when you were working and I had no idea who I was….there was a major connection there. My heart stopped. They can take a human being and they can do a lot of things to him, but they can’t take away his love….I know there are a lot of people here today who might have thought that when you were in the hospital and you were lying in that bed, well, they might have thought that I thought I was losing you….But I didn’t….Oh honey, we are meant to be together and I’m so happy that we are. I love you.”
After John and Marlena said their “I Dos,” they had some vows of their own.
John and Marlena lit the center candle of the bouquets to symbolize the unifying power of their love, joining their family together. Everyone reads from First Corinthians: Love is patient, love is kind, it does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud, it is not rude, it is not self seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love is not delight in evil, but rejoices with truth. It always protects, it always trusts, it always hopes, it always perseveres. Love never fails.
Marlena: John what I chose to say to you is from the Song of Solomon. It signifies to me the end of bad times, the beginning of the good times. Rise up my love, my fair one, and come away, for lo the winter has past, the rains are over and gone, the flowers are appearing on earth, and the time for signing birds has come. My beloved is mine, and I am his until dawn breaks and the shadows fade. Turn my beloved and be thou ever mine. I really do feel as though our winter has past, our bad times are over, and the good times are beginning. Now I know that nobody can ever promise what the future will bring, but I will make you one solemn vow. I will love you no matter what, whether rain or drought or sun or storm, whatever comes, I will laugh with you, weep with you, celebrate with you, and mourn with you. Whatever comes, I am yours my love, until death part us.
John: No wonder we are getting married because I chose a poem also. It is about a hundred years old and what it does is capture the essence of how I felt the first time I saw you. And I was never struck before that hour with love so sudden and so sweet. Her face it blossomed like a flower and stole my heart away complete. Are flowers winters choice, is loves bed always snow, she always seemed to hear my silent voice let loves appeal to know.I never saw so sweet a face as though before me stood. My heart has left its dwelling place, can return no more. That sums it up Doc. I fell in love with you the first moment I laid eyes on you, and from that moment till now, well I think it’s safe that a lot water has gone under the bridge. We experienced sadness, a lot of pain, but somehow through it all our love was strong enough to endure, and everything we’ve been through. My love for you has never changed, and I know it never will. So that brings up to today, and I can stand here in front my family, and my friends, and I can promise you that I will love you until I die. I am going to be a good husband to you. I am going to honor you, I am going to protect you, I’m going to care for you, and I’m going to make your cares my cares, I’m going to make your sorrows my sorrows, and by damn I’m going to make your triumphs my triumphs. And I’m going to grow old with you, and love and joy in all the great stuff life has to offer, until death parts us.
John: This gold ring is a symbol of my love and fidelity to you, it’s made from a precious metal, in the shape of a circle, which has no beginning and no end. And so is my love for you, it is precious and never ending. As this ring encircles your finger, never forget that your love encircles my heart.
Marlena: This gold ring is a symbol of my love and fidelity to you, its made of precious medal, formed in the shape of a circle, which has no beginning and no end. As my love for you, it’s precious and unending. As this ring encircles your finger, always remember, your love encircles my heart.
John & Marlena’s March 27, 2002 vows
John: I am the luckiest man in the world because you are standing right here beside me, and you’re still here, even after I broke your heart. Now I would give anything to undo what has happened, but I can’t do that. All I can do, Marlena, is promise that I will fill today and all of your tomorrows with so much love that the pain of yesterday will simply fade away. I pledge my devotion, my entire life to repairing and restoring our marriage, and our family. God is my witness, I will never let you down or cause you one moment of pain ever again.
Marlena: We always find our way back to each other. There was a time last year when I was not sure we were going to make it. But the vows we made to each other carried me through. The worst has come and gone and I still love you more than ever. I will always love you and I promise I will never ever give up on us.
John: Neither will I
John & Marlena renew vows December 7, 2006 in Italy
John’s vows: “Father, before we go on, I have something I want to say. Doc, you and I have been here before. We’ve stood before God and pledged our commitment. I sure don’t take the vows we’re about to say for granted. I’ve come too close to losing you too many times. But the one thing that’s always brought us back to each other is our love. Because our bond is unbreakable and everlasting. “Till death do us part” are not just words to repeat. For us it’s the truth, as sure as the sun rises and sets. Our hearts will be one forever. For richer, for poorer. In sickness and in health. To love and to cherish till death do us part. I give you this ring as a symbol of our vows, and with all that I am, and all that I have, I honor you.”
Marlena: “John, I wish there was a way to put on canvas what I feel for you in my heart. To paint you a picture, because there are no words. But even if it were possible, it would take a Picasso, an artist for the ages, to capture something so profound. A happiness so complete, if I could paint a picture, I’d hang it on the stars to share with the world because everyone in their lifetime should know such a love. And if they did, the world would be a much better place. I, Marlena, take you, John, to be my husband. To have and to hold from this day forward. For better for worse, as a ring has no end, neither shall my love for you. I choose you to be my husband this day and forevermore.”
John & Marlena’s vows August 22, 2018 in the Horton Square
Marlena: “I love you so much. You are my life. You are my love. You are my commandant. Every time you call me Doc it reminds me how much you understand the work that I do. I’ve been doing this a very long time. I’ve seen a lot of relationships. A lot of love stories. And the one thing that I never really clearly understood was what makes people fall in love with each other. I mean, love is mysterious, unpredictable. People fall in love and they do things. Sometimes good, sometimes bad they would never normally do. You see love doesn’t have any patterns. It doesn’t have any rules. It really is just a leap of faith. Maybe they call it that because we’re never sure somebody is going to be there to catch us and yet we leap. It is such a show of courage and bravery. I fall for you every single day. I know sometimes you make me a little crazy but there is no one else I would rather be crazy about and crazy with. So I vow to you today to be with you on this crazy adventure called love. For every day until I die.”
John: “She did it again. Sweetheart you just stopped my heart when I saw you standing there at the aisle. And then you took my breath away when you started walking towards me. The final steps of this incredible journey that’s lead up til this moment we promise ourselves to each other. You know it just hit me again how lucky I am to have you in my life. It’s taken us too long to get back here and that’s been bothering me. I hope you know that you’re always on my mind and my heart is always here with you. No matter how far away I am the place I want to be is right here by your side. Sweetheart I want you to know that sometimes I have been so damned wrapped up in my work that I cause you to believe I’m not thinking of you. Well those days are over. From now on I am going to spend the rest of our lives telling you baby you’re stuck with me and you better get used to it. Because what we said before about love you can’t explain. It just is. And in this crazy world that we live in now we are so damned lucky to have found our one of a kind crazy love. Personally I’d like to see the world settle down because God knows you and I have shared enough of that crazy but no matter what lies ahead of us I will always be mad about you. That’s a fact.”
Jarlena’s November 8, 2018 wedding
Abe Carver presides. Abe begins. “We are gathered here today to join John Black and Marlena Evans in matrimony. John says, “Abraham. I think Doc and I have said all the important stuff to each other already. And because of her suspect stamina, what do you say let’s get right to it.” The best man, Paul, gives John the ring. John says, “You know because of what’s happened the last time we tried this I have much more of an appreciation of what these vows mean so I John Black take you Marlena Evans as my lawfully wedded wife. To have and to hold from this day forward. For better. For worse. Richer or poorer. In sickness and in health. Until death do us part.” He kisses her hand and slips the ring on.
Sami, as matron-of-honor, provides the ring for Marlena, who says, “Last time we were here in this place trying to get married, I got myself injured. You took care of me and all of our friends that were here, they saw me through. They saved my life. So this is not really just two people that love each other getting married. This is all of our family and friends being a big part of it. You know, I wanted to get married here because this is the place that the plaque for Tom and Alice was dedicated and they were a two people who showed me so much about what a marriage really is. Not because they didn’t have problems but because when they had problems and they worked them out, their marriage was even stronger after that. I want that for us. I want us to celebrate every day as though it were our first together. And I will delight in you all the days of our lives. She slips the ring on his finger and says, “I Marlena take you John to be my lawfully wedded husband to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, or worse, richer or poorer, in sickness and health, until death do us part.” Abe says, “With the power vested in me, I now pronounce you husband and wife.”
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Written by Christine Fix December 24, 2006. Refreshed July 1, 2018, November 8, 2018.