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If she is so happy, why is she stealing again?
Started by mdtuttle at 2012/07/14 06:45AMLatest post: 2012/07/16 10:06AM, Views: 3098, Replies: 74
Trish12 |
Quote habbyfan: Quote rediculous: most of you know that I lost two children in a drowning accident, it was over 30 years ago, but I still feel that loss and hurt every day and I know I always will. I joined a grief group after a while, and one of the members who had lost her 14 year old daughter, began to steal things, small items at first but more valuable things as time went on. The others in the group including myself had no idea she was doing this until she got caught. Her rational was that because something so precious was taken from her, she was compensating for that by taken others things. This is not as uncommon as some may thing. This lady needed deeper grief counseling than our group could offer and she did get help and is fine today. She just found an outlet for her grief in the wrong way. She can't believe she once did this. I actually represented her at court and she agreed to pay the merchants she had stolen from for most of the merchandise. Most of it she returned as she hadn't even opened the packages etc. Price tags still on everything. Doing that and getting counseling was all that was required of her by the court, because of her circumstances. She remembered taking the items, but said she felt as though she was in a trance, Sharon makes me thing of that lady, who is a very strong individual, but her extreme grief buckled her. After the death of a child marriages break up, alcoholism abounds and it is a very rough road to travel. The stress is over whelmning and it doesn't go away as fast as some people on here thinks it should.Just giving my perception of what could be wrong with Sharon. Who knows what the writers will come up with. I too,suffered unbearable loss at 39 years old with five children, I lost my mother in law a woman I had known from the time I was a girl of 18 we were very close 6 months later my husband then 6 months later my mother. I was out of control, lot's of men nobody knew, my family never even suspected, finally a friend found out,at first I denied everything but she never let up and finally I got help. Thirty years have gone by and I have nightmares,when I wake up I thank God for that very good friend. My kids you see grew up and went to universities they have worked and traveled all over the world,I owe it all to a higher power but if I had not had that one good friend my life could have taken a different path. Loss can be overwhelming.JMHO I agree, loss can turn you into a differnt person. I lost my grandfather, a man who took care of me my whole life, so when he died, I felt like part of me died. I was out of control, thank God my aunt was there for me and she became my biggest support and my rock. People need support in thier time of need, and Sharon just didn't have that. Nick abanoned her for that evil, vindictic, manipulate witch Phyllis. Neither Nikki or Victoria was supportive towards her. That can be a heavy burden, when people talk down to you, and pick up for a woman like Phyllis. Sorry for both of your losses, my condolences. |
trixie60 |
Quote bukopandan: Quote habbyfan: Quote rediculous: Quote habbyfan: Quote rediculous: most of you know that I lost two children in a drowning accident, it was over 30 years ago, but I still feel that loss and hurt every day and I know I always will. I joined a grief group after a while, and one of the members who had lost her 14 year old daughter, began to steal things, small items at first but more valuable things as time went on. The others in the group including myself had no idea she was doing this until she got caught. Her rational was that because something so precious was taken from her, she was compensating for that by taken others things. This is not as uncommon as some may thing. This lady needed deeper grief counseling than our group could offer and she did get help and is fine today. She just found an outlet for her grief in the wrong way. She can't believe she once did this. I actually represented her at court and she agreed to pay the merchants she had stolen from for most of the merchandise. Most of it she returned as she hadn't even opened the packages etc. Price tags still on everything. Doing that and getting counseling was all that was required of her by the court, because of her circumstances. She remembered taking the items, but said she felt as though she was in a trance, Sharon makes me thing of that lady, who is a very strong individual, but her extreme grief buckled her. After the death of a child marriages break up, alcoholism abounds and it is a very rough road to travel. The stress is over whelmning and it doesn't go away as fast as some people on here thinks it should.Just giving my perception of what could be wrong with Sharon. Who knows what the writers will come up with. I too,suffered unbearable loss at 39 years old with five children, I lost my mother in law a woman I had known from the time I was a girl of 18 we were very close 6 months later my husband then 6 months later my mother. I was out of control, lot's of men nobody knew, my family never even suspected, finally a friend found out,at first I denied everything but she never let up and finally I got help. Thirty years have gone by and I have nightmares,when I wake up I thank God for that very good friend. My kids you see grew up and went to universities they have worked and traveled all over the world,I owe it all to a higher power but if I had not had that one good friend my life could have taken a different path. Loss can be overwhelming.JMHO habby I was 39 also. You did have much to deal with, we all handle grief stress in our own individual ways, some are better at it than others, doesn't really make anyone stronger or weaker, it's just such an individual thing. Thank God for your friend, an angel sent to you during your most difficult time. The strange part of it all is the mother of my DIL has asked me numerous times over the past 20 years, what did you do to your kids, they are all so well established and you were all alone, I just tell her I got very lucky,I can't say I did anything she herself didn't do,she always says you must have. I know better. I also met a lady who like you lost her teenage daughter when a drunk driver hit the car she was in with three other teen friends another teen died with her in the accident she took to drinking. I also met a lady who's daughter was traveling with her husband of two weeks to his university graduation exercises he was in a coma for two years and her daughter was still unable to cope. You are so right everyone has a story. I came to understand that. thanks to you and red for sharing things with us. sometimes what we and the characters do is about coping, about finding ways to try alleviating the pain and other burdens we live with. Thanks Red and Habbyfan for your stories and I'm sorry for both of your losses. Everyone is different and copes with death in their own way. Getting through it all is the hard part especially when it first happens. It seems like both of you had the courage to get over what happened but you never forget. I believe that there's a higher power up there that gets us through these kinds of things. |
valleycliffe |
Quote habbyfan: Quote countryMomof4: I agree that she brings a lot of it on herself. However that could be traced back to the initial event or the illness that has traumatized her. For example: some women who are molested as children grow up with very poor or non existent self-esteem and unconsciously chose destructive habits or men because they believe they don't deserve better. Absolutely, she dosen't need to steal and from other episodes we have seen she does not know she has stolen until she finds the items she has hidden. In the case of the necklace she stole recently she told Victor it was new when he remarked on it.It was a strange scene. i saw the scene and it seemed like she still wasn't "all there"...i don't know, something is very off with her and i can't wait to find out what it is whether it be "brain tumor" or "d.i.d". i will take either one, don't really give a flying fig if those are campy, used too much or whatever the naysayers say. I WANT MY OLD SHARON BACK, and if it goes that way, so be it...whatever it takes.. |
habbyfan |
Quote valleycliffe: Quote habbyfan: Quote countryMomof4: I agree that she brings a lot of it on herself. However that could be traced back to the initial event or the illness that has traumatized her. For example: some women who are molested as children grow up with very poor or non existent self-esteem and unconsciously chose destructive habits or men because they believe they don't deserve better. Absolutely, she dosen't need to steal and from other episodes we have seen she does not know she has stolen until she finds the items she has hidden. In the case of the necklace she stole recently she told Victor it was new when he remarked on it.It was a strange scene. i saw the scene and it seemed like she still wasn't "all there"...i don't know, something is very off with her and i can't wait to find out what it is whether it be "brain tumor" or "d.i.d". i will take either one, don't really give a flying fig if those are campy, used too much or whatever the naysayers say. I WANT MY OLD SHARON BACK, and if it goes that way, so be it...whatever it takes.. I agree she seemed to be in a trance.I also thought Victor would have noticed it,if he had not just had the big emotional scene with Nikki. He was still in a state of shock himself.It was very evident he wants Nikki back and I think he knows it. |
Its not real |
Quote habbyfan: Quote valleycliffe: Quote habbyfan: Quote countryMomof4: I agree that she brings a lot of it on herself. However that could be traced back to the initial event or the illness that has traumatized her. For example: some women who are molested as children grow up with very poor or non existent self-esteem and unconsciously chose destructive habits or men because they believe they don't deserve better. Absolutely, she dosen't need to steal and from other episodes we have seen she does not know she has stolen until she finds the items she has hidden. In the case of the necklace she stole recently she told Victor it was new when he remarked on it.It was a strange scene. i saw the scene and it seemed like she still wasn't "all there"...i don't know, something is very off with her and i can't wait to find out what it is whether it be "brain tumor" or "d.i.d". i will take either one, don't really give a flying fig if those are campy, used too much or whatever the naysayers say. I WANT MY OLD SHARON BACK, and if it goes that way, so be it...whatever it takes.. I agree she seemed to be in a trance.I also thought Victor would have noticed it,if he had not just had the big emotional scene with Nikki. He was still in a state of shock himself.It was very evident he wants Nikki back and I think he knows it. I'm pretty disgusted with Victor, frankly. Not that I ever liked him but in this instance, with Sharon, I can't help feel that he should have known that something was off and tried to get her help, not bed her. Sharon may have the excuse of a psychological or mental problem for this ridiculous hook up, but what is Victor's excuse ? On a lesser scale with the stupid horse, why buy an expensive horse that needs a good rider for someone who is a recreational rider at best. If the horse is miserable I put that at Victor's feet too. From some of the conversations lately I wouldn't be terribly surprised if the writers do try to make out later that Victor and Sharon never did sleep together but, if so, I think it is a cop out to get them out of a story line that brought a strength of response they didn't foresee. They certainly did everything to give the impression that they were heading up to bed together. |
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valleycliffe |
LOLOL you know, i wouldn't give a good gosh darn if that is what the writers do, in fact i would welcome it.. |
lovinthesoaps |
Quote rediculous: most of you know that I lost two children in a drowning accident, it was over 30 years ago, but I still feel that loss and hurt every day and I know I always will. I joined a grief group after a while, and one of the members who had lost her 14 year old daughter, began to steal things, small items at first but more valuable things as time went on. The others in the group including myself had no idea she was doing this until she got caught. Her rational was that because something so precious was taken from her, she was compensating for that by taken others things. This is not as uncommon as some may thing. This lady needed deeper grief counseling than our group could offer and she did get help and is fine today. She just found an outlet for her grief in the wrong way. She can't believe she once did this. I actually represented her at court and she agreed to pay the merchants she had stolen from for most of the merchandise. Most of it she returned as she hadn't even opened the packages etc. Price tags still on everything. Doing that and getting counseling was all that was required of her by the court, because of her circumstances. She remembered taking the items, but said she felt as though she was in a trance, Sharon makes me thing of that lady, who is a very strong individual, but her extreme grief buckled her. After the death of a child marriages break up, alcoholism abounds and it is a very rough road to travel. The stress is over whelmning and it doesn't go away as fast as some people on here thinks it should.Just giving my perception of what could be wrong with Sharon. Who knows what the writers will come up with. My heart breaks for you Red..... it takes a special person to find the strength to come out the other side. 
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Kahina |
Sharon is not happy. Some People lie about to hide their suffering. |
rediculous |
Quote lovinthesoaps: Quote rediculous: most of you know that I lost two children in a drowning accident, it was over 30 years ago, but I still feel that loss and hurt every day and I know I always will. I joined a grief group after a while, and one of the members who had lost her 14 year old daughter, began to steal things, small items at first but more valuable things as time went on. The others in the group including myself had no idea she was doing this until she got caught. Her rational was that because something so precious was taken from her, she was compensating for that by taken others things. This is not as uncommon as some may thing. This lady needed deeper grief counseling than our group could offer and she did get help and is fine today. She just found an outlet for her grief in the wrong way. She can't believe she once did this. I actually represented her at court and she agreed to pay the merchants she had stolen from for most of the merchandise. Most of it she returned as she hadn't even opened the packages etc. Price tags still on everything. Doing that and getting counseling was all that was required of her by the court, because of her circumstances. She remembered taking the items, but said she felt as though she was in a trance, Sharon makes me thing of that lady, who is a very strong individual, but her extreme grief buckled her. After the death of a child marriages break up, alcoholism abounds and it is a very rough road to travel. The stress is over whelmning and it doesn't go away as fast as some people on here thinks it should.Just giving my perception of what could be wrong with Sharon. Who knows what the writers will come up with. My heart breaks for you Red..... it takes a special person to find the strength to come out the other side. Thanks lovin, I had a great support system, a hubby who stood beside me, we strengthened each other, my other children and a great extended family and my work. All those things are important. Losing a child is one of life's greatest sorrows, losing two magnifies that. Broken hearts don't always mend, but life goes on. Thanks my friend!! |
Rogerson |
Quote ski lady: Obviously she isn't happy right now, thus the stealing and blank stare. But I really hope this time around they address the problem. I hope that's what all the buzz about her upcoming storyline is about.
Sharon has not been truly happy since Cassie died and Nick left her, IMHO. Some people think Adam has replaced Nick as the new love of her life and they may be right, but I believe it is and always has been, Nicholas. Why the writers wrote the disgusting Shictor relarionship is beyond my comprehension, but it is what it is, and thankfully is about to end. I hope the writers have concocted a feasible explanation for Sharon's bizarre behavior the past few years and that she will FINALLY become the stronger person we were promised a year and more ago. |
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