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Lost Kritters Refuge & Club House/No bash please
Started by Blue 501 at 2011/03/14 12:19PMLatest post: 2013/05/25 02:39PM, Views: 208667, Replies: 10120
Blue 501 |
Quote grammylove: How I resent someone else defining my things as having no value! When I got married & moved out from my parents, my mom threw out my childhood/teenage treasures & gave my dog away. All these years later, it can still bring tears. It is obviously a sore point with me. Moxy girl, feel better. Sending chicken soup & home made biscuits with honey butter. Also, just for you - a flask with a wee bit of brandy. ♥ My mom was bad about giving away my little treasures too, like my Tarzan comic books (  ) but when I offered to get rid of my high school & college clothes she would not let me. She might want to wear my little blouses with the circle collars or my wrap skirts. They are still hanging in her closets all dusty. She still has boxes of my father's old boxers shorts with metal snaps. The seats wore out 50 years ago but she kept them in case things got tough & she had to patch them for him to wear. I have quite a job in store some time but it upsets her terribly to contemplate getting rid of any of this stuff. Someone needs to go through it first though but what a toxic job it is going to be. My brother was going to throw away a dusty bag of old Christmas cards but inside it I found a picture of a gggf who fought in the Civil War and one of my handsome father in his WWII sailor uniform. She just tucked things anywhere. She had nearly 1000 paperback books, nearly all of them Harlequin romances. I had to flip thru all of them b/c a cousin who found a pile of bills on her bedroom floor said she might have put bills in the books too. After my aunt's MIL passed away in a nursing home, that they were struggling to pay for, they found $50,000 in her house, tucked away in books. I held onto the books for a few weeks, in case she noticed they were missing & had a fit, but she did not, so the Good Will got them |
Lucy3 |
I'm a real pack rat but just seem to have lots of things that mean a lot to me. Last summer, after years of listening to "crap" I invited my son and his wife to come get stuff for a yard sale and they could have the proceeds for their vacation. They made $2,000 and had a really nice camping trip. Now I'm back out in the garage trying to discard more stuff. I have realized that it only has value to ME and if I haven't used it in years then it's time for it to go. The big problem is that I don't seem to be moving fast enough to suit my husband. We had a shouting match the other day because I noticed that he was going back through what I was throwing away. That irritated me and I told him so. He claimed he was just checking to make sure I hadn't missed something valuable. I mentioned that he shouldn't really be concerned about that since it was MY stuff. I just stopped and came in the house after I told him that I would have to do my part of the cleaning when he wasn't breathing down my neck. I can't stand that constant second guessing and questioning about what's this and where'd it come from, etc. my standard answer has become I don't know and who cares. |
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Blue 501 |
Quote Lucy3: I'm a real pack rat but just seem to have lots of things that mean a lot to me. Last summer, after years of listening to "crap" I invited my son and his wife to come get stuff for a yard sale and they could have the proceeds for their vacation. They made $2,000 and had a really nice camping trip. Now I'm back out in the garage trying to discard more stuff. I have realized that it only has value to ME and if I haven't used it in years then it's time for it to go. The big problem is that I don't seem to be moving fast enough to suit my husband. We had a shouting match the other day because I noticed that he was going back through what I was throwing away. That irritated me and I told him so. He claimed he was just checking to make sure I hadn't missed something valuable. I mentioned that he shouldn't really be concerned about that since it was MY stuff. I just stopped and came in the house after I told him that I would have to do my part of the cleaning when he wasn't breathing down my neck. I can't stand that constant second guessing and questioning about what's this and where'd it come from, etc. my standard answer has become I don't know and who cares. You are very brave, Lucy. It is so hard to part with things but I am old enough to die suddenly and most of what I have would go straight to the dump. About 12 years ago, I went on an inhaled insulin study & I was in the control wing for the first half of the study & the insulin they made me use made me pack on the pounds. I still have my nice clothes, the silks, the Ralph Lauren slacks, etc., hanging in my closets in hopes I will finally lose the weight & be able to wear them again. Even if they are not riddled by moths, and even if I lose the weight, my husband insists they are outdated. I say classics are never outdated but he is probably right. I have had a long time to lose that weight. Of course, the chocolate therapy & pity parties over my breast problem did not help but I have lost about 15 pounds of that. There is hope. (in my eyes anyway). |
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Blue 501 |
I had such a nice surprise this morning. My internet is back, after being out for 2 weeks. I got a survey from Belkin yesterday & answered it with zero satisfaction b/c I was on the phone with their tech for an hour & still had no internet plus he was so hard to understand that I had to ask him to spell things. Voila! It cannot be a coincidence that the Belkin router is suddenly working again. They probably just had to push a button somewhere. It is so wonderful to be able to be at my own desk, with my own settings, working in English. Hallejulah! |
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Lucy3 |
Quote Blue 501: Same here. I've decided to be in charge of when and where it all ends up? As for the clothes, I discovered something when I lost a lot of weight last year. Things that I had held on to till I fit them again still didn't look the same because my body had shifted. I gave them to Goodwill and haven't missed them but for a few times I've remembered a favorite and wished I held on to that one. I miss all my shoes more than anything but haven't worn heels in years and never will again so they're gone from here too.
Quote Lucy3: I'm a real pack rat but just seem to have lots of things that mean a lot to me. Last summer, after years of listening to "crap" I invited my son and his wife to come get stuff for a yard sale and they could have the proceeds for their vacation. They made $2,000 and had a really nice camping trip. Now I'm back out in the garage trying to discard more stuff. I have realized that it only has value to ME and if I haven't used it in years then it's time for it to go. The big problem is that I don't seem to be moving fast enough to suit my husband. We had a shouting match the other day because I noticed that he was going back through what I was throwing away. That irritated me and I told him so. He claimed he was just checking to make sure I hadn't missed something valuable. I mentioned that he shouldn't really be concerned about that since it was MY stuff. I just stopped and came in the house after I told him that I would have to do my part of the cleaning when he wasn't breathing down my neck. I can't stand that constant second guessing and questioning about what's this and where'd it come from, etc. my standard answer has become I don't know and who cares. You are very brave, Lucy. It is so hard to part with things but I am old enough to die suddenly and most of what I have would go straight to the dump. About 12 years ago, I went on an inhaled insulin study & I was in the control wing for the first half of the study & the insulin they made me use made me pack on the pounds. I still have my nice clothes, the silks, the Ralph Lauren slacks, etc., hanging in my closets in hopes I will finally lose the weight & be able to wear them again. Even if they are not riddled by moths, and even if I lose the weight, my husband insists they are outdated. I say classics are never outdated but he is probably right. I have had a long time to lose that weight. Of course, the chocolate therapy & pity parties over my breast problem did not help but I have lost about 15 pounds of that. There is hope. (in my eyes anyway). |
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Blue 501 |
Quote Lucy3: Quote Blue 501: Same here. I've decided to be in charge of when and where it all ends up? As for the clothes, I discovered something when I lost a lot of weight last year. Things that I had held on to till I fit them again still didn't look the same because my body had shifted. I gave them to Goodwill and haven't missed them but for a few times I've remembered a favorite and wished I held on to that one. I miss all my shoes more than anything but haven't worn heels in years and never will again so they're gone from here too. Quote Lucy3: I'm a real pack rat but just seem to have lots of things that mean a lot to me. Last summer, after years of listening to "crap" I invited my son and his wife to come get stuff for a yard sale and they could have the proceeds for their vacation. They made $2,000 and had a really nice camping trip. Now I'm back out in the garage trying to discard more stuff. I have realized that it only has value to ME and if I haven't used it in years then it's time for it to go. The big problem is that I don't seem to be moving fast enough to suit my husband. We had a shouting match the other day because I noticed that he was going back through what I was throwing away. That irritated me and I told him so. He claimed he was just checking to make sure I hadn't missed something valuable. I mentioned that he shouldn't really be concerned about that since it was MY stuff. I just stopped and came in the house after I told him that I would have to do my part of the cleaning when he wasn't breathing down my neck. I can't stand that constant second guessing and questioning about what's this and where'd it come from, etc. my standard answer has become I don't know and who cares. You are very brave, Lucy. It is so hard to part with things but I am old enough to die suddenly and most of what I have would go straight to the dump. About 12 years ago, I went on an inhaled insulin study & I was in the control wing for the first half of the study & the insulin they made me use made me pack on the pounds. I still have my nice clothes, the silks, the Ralph Lauren slacks, etc., hanging in my closets in hopes I will finally lose the weight & be able to wear them again. Even if they are not riddled by moths, and even if I lose the weight, my husband insists they are outdated. I say classics are never outdated but he is probably right. I have had a long time to lose that weight. Of course, the chocolate therapy & pity parties over my breast problem did not help but I have lost about 15 pounds of that. There is hope. (in my eyes anyway). You are right but I gave up truckloads of stuff when I married Valentin & still had to buy another house, next door to his, to store the things I could not part with. Shoes would be a good thing to target though. An insulin-dependent diabetic does not dare to wear a shoe that puts too much pressure on a toe and I have boney feet with long toes and no fleshy cushion anywhere so I mostly have to wear running shoes all the time. When I "dress up" I have to wear a pair of flat sandals of some sort & even then I have to be very careful. Where are those lace up "old people shoes" that my grandmothers wore? I see women in their 80's still stumbling around in high heels & hanging onto a walker. For what? And some younger women even deform their feet permanently. For what? I would rather be able to walk pain free. I made a step in the right direction. I gave away my thigh high boots with high heels & my clogs that added inches to my height. Maybe someone can wear them as part of a costume. I fell off one of those danged clogs one time & still have scars on my knee from it. My Elvira Halloween costumes will probably be the last to go but I have a portrait of myself in it that I will never part with .BTW, there was Animazement Convention in Raleigh this weekend. There is an older guy from New Bern dressed as Kenpachi, with a star shaped black headdress, a black eye patch,etc & pix of a lot of other costumes. I would still have enjoyed seeing that! Very much. Sometimes I hate being so tied down & controlled (guilted into things). Sigh...... |
moxyboy1 |
Ah, thank you for the honey butter buscuits, and the flask seemed to actually help GrammyL. I am still taking it easy today, the body aches are starting to dissapate, (sp) and I am getting hungry again. I found this really great bubble water from Safeway, lemon lime, with no calories, and Dr. says it's fine to drink. He also said I could let it go flat and I do,so my results came in, and everything checked out okaye front and back, woo hoo. Don't have to do that again for another 10 years. Wonder where I will be in 10 years??? Things I gave up that I regret,... my blue plate special plates, big cloth covered boxes from my Gramma that stashed all my hat collection, my hat collection, all my material for sewing projects, all my old quilts that he hated!!! I have much left,..it is mine, and I DECIDE when to let it go, we argue about the garage also, but that is mine,..all mine. period. M~p.s why can't I spell anymore, it's driving me nuts!!! |
grammylove |
Our little country cemetary looks beautiful today. Lots of white crosses for veterans & many flowers. One family was setting up with everything short of a BBQ! My son was not in the military, but he was a dedicated police officer, so he did get his own little flag. I found a toy police car that I tucked in with the flowers - silly mom. |
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Lucy3 |
Quote grammylove: Our little country cemetary looks beautiful today. Lots of white crosses for veterans & many flowers. One family was setting up with everything short of a BBQ! My son was not in the military, but he was a dedicated police officer, so he did get his own little flag. I found a toy police car that I tucked in with the flowers - silly mom. Two weeks ago we went to my husbands hometown for decoration at his paternal grandparents and the family on that side, including his parents. This weekend we went back for the maternal side and several people we knew at four different cemeteries. All the places looked so nice. We visited with a lot of people, most of whom I had no idea who they were. Country people are so open and welcoming. We got invited to several picnics but didn't attend any. I'm not sure how I feel about partying over graves but as long as they were having a good time guess its none of my business.
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SuziDecorator |
Good evening, fellow Refuge-dwellers. Hope everyone is doing okay. Sounds as though there is a lot of cleaning out of old stuff going on. I honestly have very little, in comparison. Had a pile of old pictures from my childhood but not sure where they are - that's about the most important thing I have. I easily discard clothes, etc. A few things from when my kids were small - a funny note that my daughter wrote to "the tooth fairy" asking for a bit more money because that was a big tooth and caused quite a bit of pain - stuff like that. The older I get the less "stuff" means to me. I'm fixin' to have a garage sale one of these days and hoping to get rid of many many things. I rarely stage homes any longer so can easily get rid of a lot of stuff that I used for that - bedspreads, decorative pillows, lamps, knickknacks, "ordinary" pictures. |
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