Quote cardgirl: First, Maxie is my absolute favorite character on GH. I have loved watching her grow up. I understand why she does what she does. I understand that down deep, Maxie acts mostly based on her own lack of self worth. Maxie does not understand boundaries like most people do. I think she acts out because of always feeling like she was abandoned by her parents. I know Mac gave her a good life, but that is not the same as being with your real parents. Children, no matter what age, they know when they are not their parent's priority. And those feeling elicit a lot of negative behaviors.
All of this, has caused Maxie to be very selfish and impulsive. It's hard for her to see things from other's perspective. That would require a level of connecting to another person, that Maxie is not capable of. She has however, over the years shown some growth and has become somewhat less self absorbed. But she still makes really bad decisions. And a lot of those times her heart has been in the right place and she has meant well. But still her inability to think about the consequences of her action has gotten her in trouble.
Deciding to lie about the true parentage of the baby is one of her worst laid plans. She was trying to be unselfish, she meant well. She just didn't stop to think about the fact that having to carry a child she knew was hers was going to make it hard for her to not bond with the child.
She only wanted the baby though after she was found out. If Brad had never told on her, Connie would have been raised with Lante. She only decided that she wanted her after being convinced that raising her own baby was the right thing to do by Felicia and Mac.
Does this mean she does not love her child? No. Does this make her a bad mom...well we don't know yet because she has not parented yet. And the fact that she is not parenting her own child right now is her own fault. She for once needs to suffer the consequences of her well intentioned bad decisions. What she did, DID cause great harm, to Lante, to Spinelli, who was lied to for months. She did not deserve to be called a murdered though and Lulu is not a better person or parent then she is. However, she does need to prove that she can change and that she can parent and make good decisions. Maxie can't just do what she wants all her life. Especially now that she is a mom. She will need to make decisions that are best for her child for a long time to come, she will have to make sacrifices for her child. You can't be selfish and be a parent. I think she can change, and I think she can be a good mother. But she needs to live with these consequences. The judge could have ruled in Lante's favor. He could have put the child in foster care right then and their.
Even today she defied what the court order said and went to see the baby. She put Spinelli in a very bad position. She showed that she only cared what she wanted. She did not care that if she was caught the baby would be taken away from Spinelli and the baby would go into foster care and she would be in jail. SELFISH! Yeah it's hard to separated from your child. But suck it up, it's a small price to pay and it's not forever if she just can wait it out. Connie is not gonna be unable to bond with her later, she does not even know Maxie now, so when she comes back, Connie will be able to bond with her. And it's unlikely she will be walking at nine months which is how old she will be in six months. Spin is smart and if he thinks of it he could tape the baby doing things to show Maxie along the way.
And for those who say Maxie should appeal. Well, IRL because this is family court involving a child and it was a custody thing, she can't appeal. That is not how it works. In family court when your child is removed from your care or is prevented from seeing you, it's because you need to prove you are responsible and can make good decisions for a child. Maxie as sad as it is, needs to prove herself, and she brought this on herself. She can't expect to constantly be doing things she deems well intentioned and then have them go bad and have no consequences. It's about time she really grow up and just suffer the consequences of what she did. Only she could have prevented all of this.
Well, Ellie could have spoken up before, but that is nither here or there.
CG amazing post and I agree with most of it. What I don't agree with is the bad parenting part. That was a complete re-write by past writers to make Maxie act up. Felicia was always a good parent until they decided to make her a neglectful one for storyline purposes. Maxie had a good mom for 15 years of her life so she was shown to have values and family life, especially once Mac came into the picture. I don't accept the excuse "she is who she is because of her parents" since she had a good life but CHOSE to go on a bad path on her own because she felt she wasn't as good as others. She didn't have many issues, aside from typical teenage issues and acting out, until Kyle put their sexual endeavours on the internet, then they cast Kirsten Storms and made Maxie a complete mess, which she wasn't as much of when Robyn Richards played her only months previous.