Quote ransomha: Frisco needs to call in a favor or two and get supervised visitations for Maxie and her daughter.
Bad for the child to be away from her mother.
The bonding would continue and Maxie would learn her lesson . WIN-WIN
Rulings are changed EVERYDAY, not a big deal.
Have a doctor come in and say the baby isn't thriving and needs her natural mother.
Having Frisco who has spent his children's whole lives choosing his career, his need for adventure over his children's need for their father, would not be the best person to ask to call in a favor. Felicia would be no better. I know they now realize they were wrong. But Maxie is all grown up now and she has suffered for the lack of having her real parents around for her. She was old enough to know they were choosing something else over her. Just like kids whose parent use drugs and wont get help know they do not come first.
And yes possibly because of what Maxie had to endure, she will be a much better mother to her child. And perhaps in part, because she knows what it feels like to be abandoned, Maxie does not want Connie to feel that.
However, this does not change the fact that Maxie for once needs to feel the impact of what she did. She did cause great harm to somebody else. No it was not the child directly, but still, she was willing to give her own child away...and yes at the heart of it, she was trying to do a good thing. It still does not excuse her.
All her life almost Maxie has had a choice about her behavior...she knows right from wrong and still she chooses wrong. I understand it was not because she didn't really want her baby that made her choose to let Lante think they were the parents. I know she was trying to be unselfish. But at some point, this was gonna come out. Maxie's problem is she makes decisions and never stops to think about the real consequences of her actions. Was Lulu needlessly cruel to her? Yep. But Lulu DID spend months and months anticipating being a mother. And having that ripped from you when you are not the one who decided to do something fundamentally wrong, is heart wrenching. Lulu was right, Connie is not a shoe Maxie can just suddenly decide she does not want anymore. We are talking about a baby.
Right now Lante are suffering because of her decisions. She robbed Spinelli of the joy of knowing he was going to be a father and of having the opportunity to anticipate that child and share in the preparations and the joy of watching the baby develop. Maxie did a very bad thing.
Yes court orders change all the time. And in six month the judge is very likely to allow Maxie to have joint custody with Spinelli. I doubt if Maxie was given even supervised visitation she would really get what she did. She already, after just a few days violated the court order. Because of what SHE wanted. She was willing to risk Connie losing BOTH of her parents permanently AND going to jail, because of what MAXIE needed not the baby.
Connie is a little baby, she does not now know if people care for her or not, rather she does not know the emotional impact of not having a parent take care of her. Her needs are very basic, almost primal right now. She needs food water and to be nurtured. Spinelli is giving her those things right how. And in six months Maxie will be doing the same thing. And that baby will be no worse for the wear.
If she was older, yes, keeping her from somebody she is already bonded with, would harm her. But she isn't bonded to Maxie yet. She is not old enough yet to have that kind of emotional development. The kind that lets a child know they are not with their biological parents. They bond to whoever feeds them, holds them, changes them.
She will not fail to thrive because Maxie is not allowed contact. Baby's that young fail to thrive when they are not being fed, or held or comforted when they are in distress. Spinelli is giving her all she needs right now. And after six months, when Maxie is able to be in her life again that baby is gonna bond with Maxie without any lasting effects.
Maxie needs to fully understand what she did. Just letting her be with her baby because she is the biological parent would teach Maxie nothing. Part of parenting is always doing what is best for your baby. Allowing your child to be raised by somebody else because you don't want to be thought of as a screw up, or because you do not want disappoint somebody else, is not best for the baby.
Maxie was doing what was best for Maxie...even though she thought she was doing the right thing she knew down deep she was not, and still chose to do it. She can be as sorry as she wants, but this time she does need to prove that she can change and truly put somebody else's needs before her own. Bringing the baby gifts and "stuff" is not love. It does not prove love. Actions prove love, sacrifice for the right reasons prove love. Anybody who is not capable of doing that for even a short time should not be allowed to parent ever.
I do think Maxie can do the right thing and learn from this, she just has to start by putting the baby first. Accept the consequences without whining about how unfair it is that SHE can't be with her baby. So far, she is not doing that. It's her own fault that this is even happening at all.